Humans are built for change. At the practical level, we demonstrate this daily: we can withstand extreme weather conditions; we can tolerate changing diets; we love new technologies. At the mental and emotional levels, the impact of change can be daunting. For the most part, we want to wake each day to the familiar, the same road – this is safe, and certain. Knowing that we have the same job to go to each day; greeting our family at the end of the day, expecting they will be there; going to the same grocery store every week, getting our usual supplies.
But when we are forced into a situation where we must change because of a major life event (death, unemployment, failing health), the stress can be huge, especially when it is sudden and we feel unprepared.
Life is nothing but constant change and forward progression, or else nothing would evolve. We may not see this happening, as we witness the world only from where we stand. Our world is so multi-dimensional, with millions of occurrences and events overlapping; this is why most change at a broader level is so subtle to us. But when abrupt change does happen at the individual level, it’s more real, more “right now.”
How can we deal more effectively with change personally? Start small so that you are ready for the bigger stuff. For example, when I get up, I shower and then I meditate for thirty minutes. During a time when I had visitors staying with me, I made sure they were allowed to shower first while I maintained my “hostessing” duties. I decided that while my guests were getting ready, I would meditate first, and then shower, so that the water would be hot again by the time I was ready to get in. Just switching my showering and meditation around actually allowed me a little extra time in the morning – so I’ve kept that new order ever since!
While it may sound simple, starting with small changes requires you to examine what routine you do every day. Is there a better way to do it? Is there something you’ve been doing for years that you probably don’t need to do anymore? The best way to look at this is to do something different with what you do now. Start small. Go outside your comfort zone, just a little. This is how we deal with the bigger stuff that will come later.
…and I’ll be right there with you!